Why should my child an imaginary friend?

Many parents begin to worry when their three-, five children invent an imaginary friend yourself. They were surprised to ask themselves: "Why do we kid imaginary friend? Does he not see the difference between existing and imaginary people?" Parents are always frightened when their child suddenly says: "Caution: You sat at the Herman!"

Nevertheless, an imaginary friend played a significant role in the development of creative abilities in children. It helps the child to cope with many emotional problems. For example, an imaginary friend helps deal with the loneliness, when the family moved to another location, but all the old friends were in the old courtyard. Also, a child could invent an imaginary friend if the family has a second child when he started to go to kindergarten or family troubles. Sometimes the imaginary friend is not a man but an animal, for example a dog. Children invent him to overcome his fear of dogs, or because he wishes to have a dog.

If a child has very strict parents, he can think of a friend who with him ladit excellent and they are always satisfied. It happens that in the game with an imaginary friend of a child assumes the role of a demanding parent, while others like a helpless child: "Herman, you have done very badly. You should not do so."

Sometimes the baby invent an imaginary friend to absolve themselves of guilt. Since nashalivshy child is afraid of losing position, and the love of parents, he can deny his guilt, even if he was caught in the act. The stronger the fear, the greater the temptation to blame the imaginary friend. In this case, the child will not have to listen to criticism and feel responsible for what: "It took the German paper with your table" or "German made me do it." In this situation, parents should say in response: "So, I forbid you to play and Herman with papers" or "You have mixed paper on the table, now help me to put them in order."

When your child suddenly appears an imaginary friend, you probably will not know how to act in certain situations. For example if you want to play along with fantasies and put an extra child's chair during a dinner table in front, as asked for your kid? The best way out - to reach a compromise. You may be able to yield to the child when he asks you to do something for an imaginary friend. At the same time, do not forget about the framework allowed: "Can you tell me about your friend, but the homework you do it yourself". If you are concerned that the child believes in a non-existent character, remember how you told him stories about Baba-yage or Dede Frost. The difference between the imaginary heroes is that of his friend's child invent itself.

If you think that the child begins to dream because it feels helpless, think about that, to give him more freedom. Give him the opportunity to freely express their feelings and discover the world. If your child is sad because due to the relocation of lost old friends, help him find a new place to take an imaginary friend.

Over time, when your child povzrosleet, he forgets about his imaginary friend, and will take full responsibility for what themselves. Then you start to remember this short period of existence of an imaginary friend as an interesting and unusual children's whimsy.